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Wednesday, September 30, 2015

Scotland (week 1)

We recently returned from two weeks spent in glorious Scotland. We had a wonderful time; and to their credit (considering the trans-Atlantic flight, time spent driving around, and amount of "poopy mommy stuff" they had to do), the girls did very well. We invited ourselves onto a trip that my mother and sister had been planning for years... so the girls and I were traveling with Mommy, Renata, and my brother-in-law, Brian. A nice 2-1 adult/child ratio.

We flew out of Dulles, had a brief stop in Iceland, and then continued on to Glasgow. Icelandair might not be generous with food and drink, but they were very helpful with the girls... giving them travel packs with earphones, blankets, and coloring sets, and also free food and drinks. This is perhaps the one time Renata wished she was still a kid.

The first day was a bit tricky because we couldn't seem to find anything we were looking for... including our hotel and our dinner. And we were all exhausted from the flight. Eventually, we made it to Falkirk and the Kelpies, and had a beautiful walk around. The Kelpies are a tribute to the role of the horse in shaping modern Scotland, and they are incredible. Nearly 100 ft tall, they dominate the landscape!












After a coma-like sleep, we were ready to hit the roads and see the sights! The first stop was the Falkirk Wheel, another impressive feat which is part of the canal system that transverses Scotland. We didn't take a ride, but we spent some time with the excellent kids area that had wonderful examples of ways to move water! You know I can never turn down a chance to make the girls learn something! They even had an Archimedes Screw!
The Falkirk Wheel

Cora demonstrating the Archimedes Screw












Then we were off to the races! Literally. We headed toward Perth, toured Scone Palace, and went to the Perth Racecourse for the Scotland Food and Drink Festival. We dined and sampled beers and then tried to find any available shade as it was a glorious day, and much warmer than Scotland has a right to be. It was fun to watch the races, and Cora even picked the winning horse in the second race!


A hot afternoon at the races!
Our hotel that night was right in the middle of Perth, but it was next to a park and had a lovely beer garden. We took full advantage and just enjoyed the afternoon, and some delicious Scottish beverages.

The next day was to be our longest day of driving, and my worry about going the wrong way didn't make it easy! The scenery was grand though!



We had grand plans to see many castles, but I think we only managed to squeeze in one. We went by Balmoral, but it seems that Elizabeth II doesn't like American tourists poking around while she's on holiday. We made it to Kildrummy Castle, a 13th century ruin, which is one of the largest ruins I have ever visited.
















This was a pretty trying day with the girls... the third day of our trip (the worst for jet lag in my experience), Cora got car sick, and everything seemed to be closed. So, the other adults escaped into the Glenfiddich Distillery and the girls and I headed onto Inverness.

On Wednesday, we poked around Inverness for a bit... but Marks and Spencer's grocery section was where we had the most fun! Then we headed south towards our next destination. We were traveling through a part of Scotland I have been in many times, and I decided to stop at one of my favorite places, the Glen Hotel in Newtonmore. Mommy, Renata, and I had a Mother's Day lunch there many years ago; and when Tony and I were in Scotland last, we stopped there to spend a night. All I had to do was walk into the pub to realize it was the same place (apparently I never forget a drinking establishment). We had a great lunch there... I'll have to keep up the tradition of going there!




That afternoon we arrived at the little cottage outside Kenmore where we would be staying the next five nights. The first order of business was riding lessons for the girls. They loved it!

Their instructor was great, and she had them on ponies and whisked away very quickly. When they returned, they were all smiles and they played a few games before saying goodbye to Manhattan and Taffy. The girls would probably say that was one of the best parts of the trip!




The cottage was at the Mains of Taymouth resort, and it was a perfect base for us for the next few days. We had a lovely back garden, plenty of bedrooms, and even a pool table to keep Renata and Brian occupied. The next few days would be spent at the FEI European Eventing Championships  at Blair Castle. Mommy and Renata had been planning to attend the Championships for years... Brian, the girls, and I had just jumped on the bandwagon!

Thurday morning, the girls and I headed out to feed the ducks along the River and Loch Tay. It was a gorgeous morning, and the girls were quite content to splash about in the river and command the attention of 20 or so ducks.

gorgeous Loch Tay



That afternoon, Brian and I went white water rafting on the Tay. He was the only one brave enough to join me, so Mommy and Renata took the girls to tour Blair Castle. We had a great time! It was a great way to spend the afternoon, and I was ready to do it again the next day! It was also an excellent reason to have a pint down the pub afterwards!


Friday the girls and I went to Blair Castle on the heels of Mommy and Renata. It was my first exposure into a major eventing event (haha)...  lots of tweedy people walking around, loads of good food, shopping, and a kids area that immediately attracted attention. We tried one of the bouncy houses and the trampolines, which the girls enjoyed immensely. 
Cora does a flip!
That evening, it was wonderful to welcome the extended Moffat clan to our cottage (more on them later). I thought I was quite posh by waiting for them on the stone wall outside with a glass of wine and a plate of chips... I am not sure wine and chips are a posh combo though. We had a great evening with them, and even made an impressive dent on the massive bowl of chips we had!

I'll have to pause at this point... this is fairly lengthy already... stay tuned for the next installment... "When we nearly got hypothermia in September!"

Thursday, September 24, 2015

Reflection

I think (I haven't actually bothered to check) that a lot of my recent posts have been about the up and down, and round and round feelings I go through all the time. It might make for monotonous reading, but it takes up most of my time.

I've decided to coin a new term for this feeling: widow-lescence.

It reminds me a lot of the turmoil of being a teenager... the doubt, the anxiety, but also some shining moments of joy. Just as adolescence is a journey we all must take to emerge into the adult world, I know I must go through this in order to re-emerge into a world without Tony. It's something very difficult, and something I can only go through alone... I will say that I'm thankful that there is less acne in widow-lescence.

So, bear with me as I learn how to be a person again... a phrase that I hear so many parents use when their kids emerge from adolescence.

Also, I promise an excellent travel post soon!


Tuesday, September 15, 2015

4 years, 1 day

Yesterday was the four year anniversary of Tony's first ALS diagnosis. I remember it very clearly... we met with the doctor, then went to the parking lot, hugged each other and cried. Then we went to Target...

It sounds flippant, but that's kind of an example of how Tony approached life with ALS. He just wanted to get on with things. He didn't shrink.

It is astonishing how much ALS changed our lives in those four years. Obviously, the biggest change is that Tony's gone now. Ninety percent of ALS patients die within 2-5 years of their diagnosis... he lived 3 years, 5 months, and 5 days after his. Losing him is an immeasurable loss.

And there's no "but" that can go with that.

Those years transformed us. We did things that average working parents of two young children wouldn't dream of tackling. We gave up everything to just be with each other. To borrow from another ALS patient, we collected moments, not things.

And now, the girls and I are thousands of miles from home, exploring the country where Tony was born. A trip that would never have happened if ALS hadn't entered our lives.

There's the horrible, and the silver lining. It's a conversation I have with myself nearly every day... it knocks me to the ground, and I try to reason my way back up. It's a conversation that'll take longer than 4 years, but I'll never forget what I've learned along the way.

Friday, September 11, 2015

9/11

We met about 5 weeks after that day.

I would never seek to diminish it; but tonight, all my ugly crying was for you.

I miss you.

Thursday, September 3, 2015

Sliding with Louise

I heard a story today from one of Louise's teachers that is definitely worth retelling...

She often takes a collection of things with her to day care, and the other day she asked to take your scarf. I'm sure I rolled my eyes because she hardly needs a scarf in 80° weather, but I packed it into her back pack anyway.

That day, she wore your scarf on the playground and she was going down the slide with one of her teachers. Louise went first, and then turned around and asked the teacher to wait before following. She said ”wait please, my daddy is going after me."

I won't even begin to try to analyze that, but it makes me so happy. You were never able to play with Louise on a playground, but she's bringing you along now. I worry about how this affects them so much, and this little tidbit makes me think they might be alright.

But of course, I didn't need to tell you this story... you were already there.

Love you, babe.