Monday, April 23, 2018
I was super bummed about having to cancel, but I'll admit that I also had serious doubts about my ability to get it all done now that I'm back to work. Maybe a break this year is a blessing in disguise. I am committed to trying again next year though... hopefully we can bring it back!
My biggest disappointment was that I could help our local ALS families with the proceeds from the Cup this year. A chance conversation with a local business owner fixed that though. Our local Domino's will be sharing a portion of their profits with us this week, and all that will go to our local friends still fighting ALS. I'm super grateful for their support and help and super grateful for everyone who orders from them this week... even the drunk college students who aren't aware of the good they are doing.
Tuesday, February 13, 2018
Ever since I was a little girl, I have had a particular habit when trying to go to sleep. I would always daydream (or would this be nightdream?) about me and a certain handsome fellow. The fellow and what we were doing (ahem) changed over time, but the premise was always the same. I found it was always useful for turning my brain off and settling down for sleep. Very occasionally it would morph into an actual dream as well, always a bonus.
After meeting Tony, he was always the man of my dreams, literally and figuratively. When he got sick, it became harder because ALS did a serious number on our physical romance. ALS even invaded my dreams, and it's just another reason I'll never stop hating it. I could never work out a successful daydream of us heading into the sunset in his wheelchair.
After Tony died, that problem lingered and I still haven't really been able to settle back into this habit. For one, there is no one to star in my dreams anymore. And lately this type of daydream leaves me feeling more pathetic than anything else.
My new plan is to daydream about the thing that is even more elusive than the perfect guy... a capable and confident Amanda. It's still an incredibly unlikely thing, but it seems marginally more realistic at this point.
If nothing else, it is apparently maddeningly dull... I'm usually asleep within a few minutes.
A girl can always dream, right?
Saturday, October 21, 2017
Sunday, October 8, 2017
Summer has officially left us and it was another good one. I rediscovered some things that I had forgotten, and ran across some skills I thought I had lost. I found out that some people will never stop surprising me, and realized I could still surprise myself. These songs were with me along the way...
John Legend, Love Me Now
The Chainsmokers & Coldplay, Something Just Like This
ItaloBrothers, Summer Air
Ed Sheeran, Castle on the Hill and Thinking Out Loud
Rag 'n' Bone Man (Calyx & TeeBee Remix), Human
Infamous Stringdusters, Gravity
Thursday, July 6, 2017
There seems to be something about July 5th that sends my life in a new direction.
It was that day six years ago that Tony first went to a doctor about his symptoms, two days before Louise was born. That appointment was the first of many, and my life was changed forever.
I have been reflecting a lot about where I am these days. It's been two and a half years since Tony died. Sometimes, it feels a life time ago... but just a few weeks ago, the thought that he was gone hit me so hard while driving that I nearly had to pull over. So, I'm doing better but I will still spend the rest of my life adjusting. The enormity of that has become apparent.
The girls continue to be amazing, and they are growing so fast. We are lucky enough to have so much love in our lives, and they show the benefits of that. They are friendly and outgoing, and are hopefully learning to appreciate all that they have. That doesn't erase all that they have lost, though. Losing Jake is another hard blow. Every parent wishes they could protect their children from pain and heartache, and I'm no different. Obviously, I can't change the circumstances of their loss, but hopefully I can help them live with it.
So even though we've started to emerge into the light, each new development rocks me. I feel unsteady on my own, and second guess myself constantly. I have learned that I need to allow myself a lot of time to make decisions, it seems to help and hopefully I eventually arrive at the right choice. But I suppose this is the struggle of life; no matter what your situation, things are often not easy. That's okay... struggle and stress is more than a fair trade for all the gifts of life.
This July 5th, my life changing event was signing a contract to return to teaching at Lylburn Downing Middle School. I am nervous about whether I will have the energy to teach and be a single mom, but I'll certainly give it my best shot. I've already tried to come to terms with the fact that I'll have to let a lot of things go... I just won't be able to do it all. Sometimes life hands you things before you are really ready... but it would be boring any other way!